I started this thread because I'd come to a certain chain of thoughts that I hadn't come upon before.Oh, okay, perhaps I have come across this chain of thoughts before, but never with so much feeling and clarity to back it up.
So, I am assuming that I am speaking of my moon in cancer.
You know, the one that is the most sensitive part of my nature. The position that is at its "most subjective" because "cancer is at its home in the position of the moon and can therefore greatly influence the personality" etc.
I have a few questions though.
Well,actually, one compound question made up of various segments.
Truth be told, I felt this position more strongly when I was younger.
I think back then, the sun and moon were always competing for centre stage and so I would switch between being gregarious, obnoxious and playfull (Sun in Sagittarius) in one instant, and then turn around and be introspected, sullen, defensive and impressionable(cancer moon(I assume)) the next.
However, I have changed much since then and find that the description of the moon in cancer does describe me somewhat, to a certain degree, but other traits I feel are exaggerated.
As always, I believe that personal ancedotes and experiences far outway academic theory and generalization and so I ask these three questions that bother me a great deal about this position.
1. Do you have close ties with your mom/ dad to such an extent that you are unduly(at times) influenced by them and their opinion of whom you are with(either friend or lover), what you do with your life, how your opinions and beliefs are formed.etc?
It is often alleged that the bond between the mother and child becomes that much more pronounced when the moon is in this position.
My mom and I are quite close but I've always had a problem with our bond. For one thing, I continualy seek distance from her as I have come to find that I am uduly influenced by her.
If she panics and reacts irrationally, I am more than likely to be affected by that energy. I also tend to put her on an unrealistic pedastal, think of her opinion as of utmost importance and find that I can't disgaree with her without feeling really awful.
At times, I've found that I can feel emotionaly blackmailed by her.
Now I am not sure whether that has to do with our signs both being in Sagittarius that brings this influence on. As I said, detailing the difference between the two can be a monumental task.
2.Do you, as a moon in cancer, feel stromg ties with your culture, heritage, family background , roots etc?
Personally I don't.
I have often read of how traditional, home-loving and rooted the cancerian moon wants to be and yet, I find myself not fitting this description at all.
On the contrary, my love for family is from a distance. I don't want to be involved in any family affairs as often times I've felt that my bond with them is more obligatory than out of choice.
Also, I do agree with the "wanting to feel a sense of family"(on the other hand, who doesn't) but this feeling is more towards close friends(which are very few b.t.w) as I feel like I am more bonded to them than my own family.
I am really not into the whole cultural, roots thing etc as I often feel that my culture is stifling, regressive and lacks intellectual appeal.
I've often been condemned by my cancerain father of "losing my roots" , but I have always thought that "losing one's roots" is imposiible because home, is where the individual feels most himself. And that is not limited to blood ties, geographic location or customs and rituals.
3.And what is up with the "they are so sensitive, moody, self-pitying babies" description? Are you, as a moon in cancer, really as sensitive and subjective as claimed?
Well, I do have my fair share of inburts, when I am watching something really touching that I tear up to, but it is never a howl.
And yes, perhaps a wounding word does tend to get me to pout, but I stay away from such people(literaly) run away from them at times, but I don't rejurgitate the ordeal later when I have the so-called "I am feeling sorry for myself now" moments.
I also don't like the responsibility of having to mother someone else. Yes, I'll offer a kind word, food to eat, or even a place to stay for the night but don't expect me to sit there and hold your hand while you burst into tears.
I am more inclined to leave people alone to have their "moment" and when they feel ready to talk(not necessarily with me)I'll be able to say something to reassure them and cheer them out of their blues.
What are your experinces with the moon in this position?
1. Are you close to your mom/dad to a point where they influence you unduly and you feel like you may never outgrow their disapproving look of whom you want to be?
2. Are you as traditional, conservative, rooted and conecerned with all things family related?
3.Are you really as sensitive and helpless(more like an overgrown baby) as alleged?
Speak your mind.